Over the course of a year of visits to a care home for older people, the author gathers stories, routines, and relationships that invite reflection on uprooting, memory, and care. Bingo, as a shared ritual, becomes a symbol of comfort and community.
BINGO
“Our beautiful nest is no longer so, but it will always be in my thoughts.” With these words my grandmother referred to the house where she had lived for more than sixty years. We found them a few days after her death, among the few pages she hadn’t torn from her diary. In those pages she wrote about her decision to move into a care home, where she spent the last months of her life. A decision I didn’t understand, and one that I experienced as a kind of mourning. And yet, “the beautiful nest is no longer so.” That is what my grandmother wrote, and that is what she wanted us to know: spaces are fragile, time undoes them.
In an attempt to understand, I began visiting a care home just one street away from my own house. Gradually, I began to form bonds with the residents and to find my place there. Routines give order to the days: meals, activities, rest. Every Wednesday, bingo gathers most of them in the common room. The calling of numbers, repeated like a ritual, sets the rhythm of a present marked by resignation and, at the same time, offers comfort by creating a shared moment of play. The care home functions as a space of care, but also of isolation, redefining the relationship of those who live there with what they have left behind.